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New Rules of Weddings


                                              Image by Michelle Waters

This week’s rule is a favorite of ours!

Rule #4: Tipping

The old rule about only tipping service staff and those that work for “companies” is antiquated and should be tossed out into the recycling bin!  Our advice to clients is simple. You can tip any member of your vendor team (whether they own the business or not is irrelevant) as long as they are providing a level of service that has gone far above your expectations.  Many of your wedding vendors are small business owners and strive to do the very best job possible for you.  Showing your appreciation for a job well done means so much to them, not because it’s about a little extra cash, but that you took a few seconds to recognize them for a job that was above your expectations.  Small business owners tend to take their jobs and the service they’re providing for you to heart and a little tiny thank you means more than you’ll ever know.

Next month, we’ll dive deeper into calculating tips for vendors, but for now, we thought we share this “new rule”.

Kasey & the Bliss Girls


The New Rules of Weddings.


Pink-and-Tan-wedding-Smitten8-650x866photo courtesy of Red Gallery Photo

This post comes to you late on a Sunday night, not because of forgetfulness. No! But because it relates to this weeks new rule. The when. Say this was Labor day weekend I might just be getting back from a wedding.

Rule #3: The When For many years weddings have taken place on Saturday night, but it has always made the most sense out of town guests can come in on Friday and attend the wedding Saturday, then go home Sunday. Very logical and still is the most likely date for most. But now as previously stated time are changing. Friday night, Sunday brunch and Sunday are now fair game as wedding dates! There is also a logic behind them most times and it is this…

For Friday night that big ticket venue would be a little less expensive. If most of your guest are within a reasonable driving distance. Then this might be a good choice for you! It is all the Oo La La of the Saturday night wedding and it gives your guests their weekend still. Or if you do have out of town guests that stay, they get a few extra days to enjoy your fair city.

For the Sunday morning brunch. This is an awesome option for a budget first off , but also it is different and unconventional. It also lends itself to a more informal setting if that is something that you are looking for. It’s just a causal affair with some nice food and good company. In my opinion it is also better for smaller guest counts.

For the Sunday night. This is a rare thing indeed, but I do believe it can be done! There is that random Monday once in a blue moon that everyone has off. Labor day being my example. This night will also most likely be very budget friendly!

So there you have rule three. Don’t be tied to what is considered “normal”. Do what works for you and your guests!

Happy Planning!

xoxo, Kasey & The Bliss Girls

The New Rules of Weddings.


photo by Annie Sturgis

This week is going to have a bit of a history lesson attached! Woo hoo! ( I really liked history in school) Today for the second new rule of weddings we are going to be talking about who pays?

Traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding. Most likely this tradtion came from waayy back in the day when girl’s fathers would pay a dowry. Now you may also think that those days are long gone. But in reality it is still common practice in the South East Asian part of our world.

Now you may ask why would anyone pay the grooms family for their daughter to get married and well it was to prove that she was not just after his land and sheep! Although that may sound odd, these were also times when livestock was valuable and if your boyfriend had a lot of sheep well… your motives could be called into question. So now today, as you can see it is a practice that is still going on, although not with the same elements.  Traditionally the girl’s parents have paid for most things at the wedding.

Which brings us to… Rule #2: Who pays?

In the eternal words of Bob Dylan ” these times they are a changin” and as people are getting married at an average age of 26 (for women), you are in a totally different stage of life,  compared to years ago when girls were getting married at 16, 17, 19, 20.  People are waiting longer to get married, and with that age going up you, well, are growing up! At 18 years old you don’t have a real job or anyway to support yourselves after you get married so of course someone else needs to help you pay.

The answer to the question of who pays is no longer such an easy black and white answer. For most brides, at an average age of 26ish, they more than likely have a real job and probably even a place of their own. So, you don’t really need your parents to support you financially in your endeavors, although it can be nice. Yes, some parents will want to pay for it all and that’s okay.  Others can’t always help out all that much and that’s okay. You just need to sit down with your fiance and talk about what you can and cannot afford on your own and decide if you want to ask for help or just plan the wedding you can afford on your own. 

Happy Planning!

xoxo, Kasey& The Bliss Girls

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